When Lou and I started this blog in 2018 it was about Lou, her cancer diagnosis and her survival fight. Lou wanted to take you on her journey of wellness. The narrative quickly became about fundraising for life-saving treatment, death and two beautiful children who abruptly lost their mother.

Continuing with a personal blog has helped me unpack and express a plethora of thoughts covering the challenges of losing my life partner and parenting on my own. The blog is now a story for Noah and Evie to return to and learn about Lou’s Lioness battle, about how much I attempt to continually fill their love cup on Lou’s behalf. It is now about me as a dad being the best version of myself. It’s about striking a balance and getting after it!!

Time moves so fast and the amount of time we have left in this beautiful world is out of our control. The way we spend that ever-diminishing time is up to us. Seneca wrote; “it’s not that we don’t have enough time, rather we use the time we have wastefully. We fail to treat time as something of value even though it’s our most valuable resource.”

Lou only wrote a few posts in the early days of this blog. Lou was meant to be the author, not me. After an early cancer diagnoses, 18 months later Lou died in my arms in a hospital bed in Germany. Here is her author profile as I don’t have the heart to remove it.

Hi, I’m Lou! A mum, an adventurous spirit, travel lover, family gal, lucky wife, and an unshakable optimist. In 2017, at just 39 I was diagnosed with aggressive Triple Negative Breast Cancer. After a year of treatment, my cancer had metastasized to my Liver and Rib bone, where it currently resides. After experiencing the enormous difference fitness and diet made for my recovery, general health and happiness it’s my mission to share that with women living with a cancer diagnosis, everywhere. Join me as we journey to wellness together!

Raising Noah and Evie on my own isn’t easy. For the most part I’ve handled it extremely well, but in 2022 I got into a massive mental rut and wallowed in despair. I fought with everything I had to climb out of that rut and work on myself, to learn about myself and to improve myself. Marcus Aurelius said “Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” In being the best parent I can be, I’m going to lead by example because it isn’t what we say that details our character, it’s what we do.

Virtue (Courage, Wisdom, Justice, temperence)